Divorce

Nobody likes to talk or think about how common divorce is these days, but the fact of the matter is that it is what it is. However, unlike many people, I don't see divorce as something that's always bad. The way I see it, yes divorce does mean that a marriage is coming to an end, but the fact is that it's the end of a BAD marriage. It's the ending of an institution that is having a detrimental effect on all of the parties involved. While that may not be the case with divorce one hundred percent of the time, I believe that it's the main reason the option exists in the first place. Divorce doesn't exist because at some point some asshole said "you know what, I want to ruin as many marriages as possible." It exists because there have been, are, and will continue to be marriages that were a mistake. People are constantly growing and changing as individuals throughout their lives so it only makes sense that many people realize and come to terms with the fact that they are no longer compatible with their spouse and that separation is best for the both of them. Yes I know the statistics that say children of divorced parents don't turn out as well, but I also know that the same is true of children who live in hostile homes where both parents are constantly at each others throats. While divorce is never ideal, it is sometimes necessary and can be for the better for everyone involved. While my last relationship certainly wasn't a marriage, but it ended because we both realized that our lives were headed in different directions. Breaking things off was relatively easy and ultimately helped us both to grow as individuals. I could only imagine that many divorces go through a similar process, obviously with a lot more paper work and complications though. I'm not saying that I'm "pro divorce", I'm just saying that I recognize that there are instances when it is a necessary evil. I also think that divorce shouldn't be seen as a failed relationship, rather I think it should be seen as a mutual understanding that helps both parties to get to a place where they can adequately and substantially better themselves. Messy divorces are absolutely a thing, I'm not denying that. It's become somewhat of a pop culture trope, the divorced couple with a large amount of animosity towards each other, but I think that in most instances that is only the case if the couple chooses to make it that way. Most well adjusted and mature adults wouldn't be petty and bitter like they are often portrayed as in popular culture. While certainly not ideal, divorce is an important institution that is necessary in many cases and shouldn't be as stigmatized as it is in our society.